How to Get Out of a Chaotic Lifestyle: The Habit That Will Change Everything
We all say we’re busy.
And most of us actually are.
It’s not always intentional; we’re genuinely juggling work, kids, errands, texts, Zooms, deadlines, and dinner. Then comes the weekend: dinner plans, birthday parties, errands that never got done during the week. It’s like we run full-speed Monday through Friday… only to sprint harder on Saturday and Sunday.
Most of my friends? Their evenings are booked, their weekends are packed.
And they’re exhausted.
I hear it in our conversations all the time —
“I just need one weekend with nothing.”
“I feel like I never have time to think.”
“My mind is always on.”
And that’s the thing. Their bodies are busy, but their minds are overloaded.
And no one’s giving themselves time to catch up with themselves.
This is brutal on our nervous system.
What Changed Everything for Me
At some point, I realized I had no space between my experiences and my reactions.
Something would happen — an idea, a problem, a conversation — and I’d move right on to the next thing.
No pause. No processing.
And yet, when I did give myself that space — 15, maybe 30 minutes alone, with no noise and no distractions — something magical happened.
I could hear myself again, clearly.
Not the to-do list version of me.
But the one who has ideas. Desires. Emotions. Direction.
This is Just 15 Minutes.
I’m not talking about a spiritual retreat. I’m talking about:
- Sitting on the edge of your bed before the day starts
- Drinking your coffee slowly instead of doom-scrolling
- Taking a walk without headphones
- Lying on the couch and letting your thoughts wander
Sometimes I write. Sometimes I don’t.
Sometimes I ask myself questions like:
- What’s bothering me?
- What am I excited about?
- What am I pretending isn’t a big deal… that actually is?
And sometimes, I just sit in silence and breathe.
And I let it come up — whatever “it” is.
Sometimes it’s an unprocessed thought from the past, sometimes I come up with a brilliant idea for business.
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Most People Are Distracted — Even From Themselves
Let’s be honest. Most of us aren’t afraid of silence.
We’re so scared of what we might hear when everything else gets quiet.
But that’s also where clarity lives.
Not in the chaos or action. But in the pause.
The pause is where your real life speaks to you:
- A memory you haven’t processed
- An emotion you’ve been numbing
- An idea that’s been waiting to land
- A truth you’re finally ready to admit
It’s all there. You just have to give it room.
Be Honest — Brutally Honest
Don’t think this is about journaling cute quotes or lighting a candle and pretending all is well.
It’s about showing up for yourself — truthfully.
- What’s going well?
- What’s not working?
- What are you ignoring that deserves your attention?
- Where do you need to forgive yourself?
This is about achieving self-awareness.
This is how you clean your emotional house — so you’re not dragging yesterday’s clutter into tomorrow’s plans.
And your life changes, as Marie Kondo says — The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.
This applies to both the physical and mental environments.
This Habit Didn’t Just Calm Me — It Changed My Entire Life
Over the years, this simple practice of sitting with myself — making time to process, reflect, and be honest — has become the quiet foundation of everything I’ve built.
It was in these quiet sessions that I asked myself:
- What kind of life do I really want?
- What am I missing — not on paper, but in my being?
- What am I ready to learn?
The answers changed everything.
I started learning how to manage money.
I took ownership of my finances, invested in myself, and started building my own business.
Eventually, I began investing in the stock market — not recklessly, but with strategy.
With the purpose and passion I had from my childhood, which I never spent enough time processing and learning.
And over time, those quiet decisions added up — to confidence, to clarity, to financial freedom.
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The mindset shift that helped me go from ideas to action.
But that’s not the part I’m most grateful for.
What I’m most grateful for is this:
I created a life where I can spend more time with my son.
Because our kids don’t stay little forever.
They grow. They get busy. They build lives of their own.
And I didn’t want to miss the precious window of opportunity when he still wants to spend time with me.
This habit gave me back my time, my mind, my life.
And it all started with 15 quiet minutes a day.
Now I can easily spend hours on this habit, and I know the wonders this has on my nervous system, creativity, and growth.
It’s Okay to Be Bored for a Minute
Most people treat boredom like a red flag.
If they’re not stimulated, they’re failing.
But boredom is just a gateway.
When you move past the initial discomfort, you start to notice what your mind really wants to say.
That’s where creativity shows up.
That’s where your best ideas come from.
That’s where you figure out:
- What you actually want
- What needs to change
- And what matters more than you thought
It doesn’t take hours. It takes presence.
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Because how you start your day sets the tone for everything.
Here’s What You Can Try (Starting Tomorrow)
Give yourself one window a day — just one.
- Wake up 30 minutes earlier than everyone else.
- Don’t touch your phone.
- Make your coffee. Sit by the window.
- Ask yourself one honest question. And just… be with it.
It will feel weird at first. Maybe even pointless.
But soon, it will become your favorite part of the day.
Because for once, you’re not reacting to the world.
You’re checking in with your own.
Final Thought: You Owe This to Yourself
You don’t need to change your whole life to feel better.
You just need to give yourself back to yourself.
Fifteen quiet minutes. No pressure. No performance.
Just you, your thoughts, and the truth that’s been waiting to be heard.
That’s self-leadership.
And it might be your way out of the chaos.
